But I know they’re just worried,’ she says, hinting at the other big issue at play.
Unfortunately for China’s women their new-found confidence has incited a backlash from men, the government and even their own families.
The popular Chinese label (leftover women), regularly perpetuated in state-controlled media and on internet message boards, refers to women who are smart, successful and moneyed but still not married by the age of 28.
Meanwhile, their grandparents – many of whom can still remember mass famine – are piling on the expectations, too.
They are keen not only to see their granddaughters marry well (traditionally the only route to financial security) but also, mindful that the country has no social safety net, to have a large family to look after them in old age.
If women don’t get married and have a child then in the eyes of their more conservative parents and grandparents they haven’t achieved harmony and they’ve failed.’ It doesn’t help that educated young women are barely given a chance to find a husband until it’s supposedly too late.